TRUST IS FRAGILE

Trust is fragile. It takes only minutes to break but months or even years to rebuild!! When trust is broken in a relationship, it doesn't just 'hurt your feelings'... it destabilizes your sense of safety. You feel their energy leaking. Their presence starts to wane. You start to question your instincts. Your nervous system stays on edge. You replay moments, behaviors and conversations searching for clarity trying to make sense of it!

Broken trust changes your environment. It creates confusion. It makes you doubt your own reality. And more than anything it makes you feel crazy, asking yourself questions like, "am I imagining this?". "Am I over reacting?" or "am I asking for too much?".

And the answer to those questions is usually, no! You're not imagining, you're probably not over reacting (although sometimes we do), and you're not asking for too much expecting transparency and honesty. I'm not saying it's easy to deal with, it's quite the opposite, actually!! Rebuilding and repairing trust is HARD, repetitive, annoying, frustrating, but at the end of the day, it's WORTH IT!!!

But it CAN be rebuilt!!

If the person who broke the trust is willing to put in the work, it can happen.

• It requires INTENTIONAL transparency. Transparency creates trust. Honesty creates assumption. Assumption creates deception! The more transparent you are, the less questions someone has to ask. It allows insight into your life.

• It 1000% requires consistency!! You can't just do something for a day or a week and expect the other person to just be ok... it's takes time.

• It requires empathy for the hurt partners triggers. That means putting yourself in their shoes and seeing how it would make you feel if they did it to you!

  
  

• It takes patience!! Lot's of patience! You can't rush how the person heals.

  
  

• Trust is built on the follow through. Make sure your words and actions are aligned!!

And for the one on the other side, the hurt person, it requires checking your tone. It becomes your duty to not only see the bad behaviors but also to see when your partner is doing the small, consistent tasks to rebuild trust! It ain't easy!! But even when it's difficult, it's imperative.

If you're constantly anxious and you're always investigating the inconsistencies and trying to piece together all the deets, then you aren't living in peace. Even though these reactions are VERY NORMAL when you feel like the foundation just fell out from under your feet, you can't live in survival mode all the time.

Trust is the invisible thread that holds a relationship together! You can't see it, but you will always feel it.

Sometimes though, despite conversations and promises, something still feels off. Your intuition won't settle. The stories don't line up. The behavior shifts but not enough to feel safe.

These are the moments when hiring a private investigator becomes the next right move! Especially if you're married!! Give it to the professionals to find the truth and give you the clarity you've been looking for.

Divorce Investigations CAN AND WILL FIND THE TRUTH, with dedication and precision. With 22+ years of experience, they have a proven track record of delivering results.

Don't wait until you lose your mind, becoming your own fbi agent. Hire the ones who can find the inconsistent pieces and ultimately give you the peace AND TRUTH you need!

CD